Little League Dad Critical of Coach

A father in Durham says his son was forced to quit over playing time this season.


In a letter to the editor in this week's Town Times, Richard Thody of Durham says he confronted his son's Little League coach over his son's playing time.

Thody says his son left the team when the situation went unresolved.

Each year, . How would you rate your experience this season?

Just my opinion June 30, 2012 at 05:57 PM
One parent sees favoritism differently than another. I have always been fortunate enough to see minimal favoritism. If my child complained about sitting I would just say how do you think the other kids feel when you play several games in a row. They are expected to cheer on their team and that not only teaches them sportsman ship it teaches them work ethics and many other lessons for example just because Mom and Dad or any other adult thinks I am the best doesn't necessarily mean that I will play every inning. We have a player who at tournament is luck to play 3 inning out of 6 games. Her parents never complain they have taught her she will get there with practice. Today she has grown so much and will be starting at our next tournament. We taught our kids to never quit something you began unless you have a medical reason. If you start band you finish the year, if you start football you stick out the season and so on. I feel most children would be happier if Mom and Dad or other adults didn't teach them that so and so was on the field longer than you today. Children are the future of our world and if they never learn that you have to work hard to get what you want then they will never make it in the real world. I always tellmy girls play harder be stronger. They live by that and they get better all the time.
Rob July 01, 2012 at 10:48 AM
Are you serious! Now you sound like one of the coaches I was referring to in my comment. FIND A DIFFERENT LEAGUE? This is OUR LEAGUE! The problem is the coaches. I was also a coach, I appreciate the volunteers, but please, keep it fair. Period. Jeremy is absolutely right. This is an adult problem. ...Play in a different league, what does that teach your kid? Great idea, put your son in that uncomfortable situation, explaining to his friends why he is in a different league.
Rob July 01, 2012 at 10:50 AM
I agree that sitting the bench is a big part of the game. However, it should be the same for ALL kids. After all, don't they all need to learn to support their teammates even when they aren't in the game?
Rob July 01, 2012 at 11:00 AM
George, just to be clear here. No-one said anything about "all coaches". In fact, I specifically said that there are some caring coaches. You can disagree with me all you want about winning. At this level it is about teaching a child how to play on a team, to work as a team, teach the rules, and teach the game. The competition will come at a higher level. How can you expect a child to compete if they don't know how to play the game. Don't you think if you teach all of this to each kid on your team you are bound to win?
Just my opinion July 01, 2012 at 01:40 PM
Rob how could teams be competitive if they all played the same amount of time. Let's face it baseball and all sports are not only about how the sport is played but how they win the games. If every player had the same time then the true talented players would be deprived of what should be their privilege of playing more because of their ability. Rec ball is rec ball however sports are competitive. Just because you come across with a fee to play should not in any way shape or form guarantee a specific amount of playing time. If your son is truly as good as he is; he will be playing more. I never had to stomp my feet or complain. Being on a travel team now our daughter has witnessed 1 girl sit all but 3 innings of 5 games that girl never complains is included in all practices and works her tail off to get as good as the other players for more field time. I know it doesn't compare to rec ball but teach your child you don't always get what you or your parents want. If your child tries out for middle school ball or high school ball do you think just because they make the team they will get equal play time. Believe me they need to prove they can do it. Parents need to cheer on all the children on a team and even on the opposing team when they make good plays. Support the coaches and umpires. Rec sports are a time for learning and fun. Parents need to stop trying to make their child feel like if they are not on the field every inning they aren't part of the team.


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